Men, Depression and Suicide

A young Russian man called Sergey Kirilov took his own life just recently as viewers watched on Skype - and encouraged him to go through with it telling him a "genuine man" would do it.

What in the world is going on?

A 2011 W.H.O. (World Health Organisation) report discovered that for every single 1 female who commits suicide, 4 men dedicate suicide. The only nation where women dedicate suicide more than guys is China.

Women have it rough in this world. Of course they do. What with things such as domestic battery, rape, discrimination, genital mutilation, unequal pay and glass ceilings, pressures to be "ideal" (to be all things to all individuals and "beautiful" to boot) and be both virgin and whore at the same time etc, life is hard for modern females.

Are guys having it even rougher if they are eliminating themselves 4 times as often as females? Let's look at the pressures males are under:

1. NEEDING TO OBEY THE MASCULINITY POLICE OFFICERS

If guys do they are called "female" and that is the most significant insult of them all - next to being called gay - in "The Bro Code". Feminizing a guy in our culture is the quickest method to put a man down (which shows just how much females are decreased the value of)... and becomes another nail in his coffin if he internalizes that self hatred as soon as too frequently.

This leaves guys with 2 alternatives - either be a "bad ass" man or be a bumbling moron/ freak geek - neither which has to do with who guys actually are or what they can be.

2. MEN ARE CONDITIONED INTO VIOLENT MASCULINITY

From every corner of our mainstream media (films, dramas, soaps, video games, pornography, music videos etc) males are continuously conditioned into violent masculinity. This has become so common that unless men are dissing other males or being disrespectful and bullying to females either verbally or physically - then they are seen as not actually "guys" at all.

3. MEN ARE CONDITIONED INTO RUGGED INDIVIDUALISM

The rugged individualism perfect has huge emotional and psychological expenses since men are not rocks unto themselves - nor should they be anticipated to be. Guys are synergistic just as women are and exist in relation to other individuals however are being required into iron straight coats which are suffocating their humankind.

4. MEN ARE IMMERSED IN PORN FROM CHILDHOOD

Putting aside all that pornography does to the cumulative male mind as a whole - specifically given that the majority of males have been watching porn considering that they were very first exposed early in youth - one of the most stressing things from my viewpoint with regard to men and depression - is how much they are routinely ejaculating to porn images. Each time a guy climaxes, his body launches a brain chemical called prolactin. This chemical stops the release of dopamine which is the "desire of things to come" chemical and exactly what makes a porn audience keep clicking on the next image ... and then the next image ... and the next ... on a pornography binge.

With the release of prolactin comes a low that can last numerous days or perhaps longer (prolactin is likewise the factor couples have "post coital blues" as soon as orgasm has actually happened.) If, then, a man masturbates several times a day every day, to porn (which is likely to be the case as we settle into our wall-to-wall-porn Web age) then just how much is prolactin contributing to the male suicide issue? And even more distressing, if guys do not do porn, they are buffooned as not being "real men". Guys are in trouble and from my point of view, they are moving much deeper into the mire every day as our culture ends up being more pornified and crueller every day.